Why are you following me ?

Being followed is pretty scary. Especially if you are more in the ‘shadows’ than out. A grisly profile pic and a few words is all I have to go on … can you be trusted; will you stay on your side of the street; is it friendship or something sinister?

4 min readJun 15, 2021


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In most polite social circles having someone constantly follow you is frowned upon …scary even.

“Have you told the police?”, someone might offer.

But on Medium, it leads to a brief and mild state of euphoria. It’s a happy moment. Some unsuspecting person thinks you are interesting enough to make that conscious decision to follow.

But for me the euphoria is quickly replaced with “WHY” … what was that single happening or moment in time when you decided … “bugger it, caution to the wind, I’m going to follow this gal / guy.” OR … This guys writing is so bad, I will follow to remind me to do better. This guy is the yardstick of what I do not want to become. Or ….is it possibly the other. Can it be?

You do realize “a follow” is for life … don’t you. Like marriage. Only without the sexual thing. Literally (such an overused word), nobody unfollows. It’s impolite. I’ve only ever unfollowed one writer because I got tired of him bashing the USA, and I’m not even American. I’ve also only ever unsubscribed from two online publications via email IN MY LIFE! What a day that was. Incredible power as I hit the “unsubscribe” link and it forlornly inquired if I was sure … and I responded -

“Abso-f’ing-lutely.” – this should be a word! Shouldn't it? I felt liberated, I could conquer the world. I briefly considered how sad the unfollowed might be, but then the wave of euphoria took hold and I had a whole glass of Coca Cola. A drink for the victors if ever there was one. Nelson drank a coca cola at Trafalgar. Before he was shot that is. One click and I owned my space. I was the “evictee” (another word). I am on fire.

Is it just me? Does anybody else click on the new follower and check if he clapped, or responded to an article I’d posted. Like a dating site we check them out. Profile Pic. How long on Medium, what are they into, Is the intro…




Brand Nerd. Waiting for the fat lady to sing ! Dyslexic - is it there or their. Passionate about making time to just think!! Sadly thinking hasn’t helped much.